To all of us he was as camp and vibrant as one would want but when he got dementia and went into a residential home there was suddenly nothing to suggest he might be gay or anything from his past. Where we would ordinarily have kissed and hugged him we were reduced to a handshake.

Roger Newman, one of the founders of the UK’s Alzheimer’s Society’s Lesbian and Gay Network, as quoted in a Guardian article exploring the problems of prejudice against the LGBTQ community in residential care.  Roger neatly sums up some of the key issues we face.

If I go to my doctor and say ‘I’m gay,’ and he says, ‘that’s ok, it doesn’t matter,’ that’s not what I want. It does matter.